I scanned the sequence of the centuries in a single second,
Looking for the essence of me.
Sandy York (2004)
One morning, years ago, I was listening to the radio as I was shaving and I heard a man saying that we all have everything in life that we have always wanted right this minute. I had to do a double-take cause I knew there were many things that I wanted that I didn’t have at that time. He went on to explain that if we had REALLY wanted those things…in other words needed them as much as we needed the air we breath then we would have already done everything necessary to make those desires a reality! It makes sense once you think about it. Many of us feel that we are much more talented and deserving than our current situation in life demonstrates. But of course the pauper’s graves are full of talented people. It can’t be just talent, education or desire that determines our true happiness in life. What is it? It’s about attraction and bliss! It’s called Self-Love, Self-Confidence, Self-Acceptance, Self-Respect, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, etc. No matter what you call it, it’s a high vibration and it feels fantastic. The opposite …..doubting yourself, disliking yourself, feeling ashamed, believing you’re not good enough or that you don’t deserve the success in life–is low on the vibrational scale and it feels awful. People might want to lose weight or have more money or enjoy more fulfilling relationships, but the underlying issue often turns out to be a lack of Self-Love. The haven’t taken the time or given the energy to love themselves. They are spending too much energy trying to live up to the societal norms that are drilled into us 24/7 by TV, radio, advertising, etc. Trying to please others instead of themselves. They haven’t found their bliss. When you love yourself, it’s easy to improve relationships because you’re capable of giving love and you can allow others to love you. When you love yourself, you quit using food to stuff down the pain of low self-esteem and it becomes easy to manage your weight. When you love yourself, your vibration is high and you naturally attract money, meaningful relationships and everything else you desire.
We were born loving ourselves and knowing our value. Of course then we starting hearing the word “NO” about a million times in the first few years which, in my opinion, started to limit us in our natural search for ourselves. Due to that pressure from parents, teachers and peers, we may have tried to gain love and acceptance by becoming who THEY wanted us to be. And, quess what? When we do this, we generally end up not loving ourselves. When we don’t love ourselves, we may reach the absurd conclusion that we’re not good enough. Then we spend our entire lives trying to prove our worth and trying to get others to love us. Meanwhile we have been hiding our magnificence and feeling worthless. Aaah!
There is simply no replacement for Self-Love. If we don’t love ourselves, we will be continually disappointed in life. We won’t even see opportunities right in front of us. Our relationships will be strained. Even if someone else really does love us, we won’t be able to feel it. We can only allow someone else to love us to the extent that we love ourselves. And it is equally true that we can only love and accept another person to the extent that we love and accept ourselves.
Everyone and everything in our environment is a reflection of our Self-Love or lack of it. That’s what I think the guy on the radio was talking about. The good news is that, because everything comes from YOU, you don’t have to try to “FIX” the outside world. Everything changes when you “FIX” your inside world and the best place to start is by choosing to love yourself more. When you choose Self-Love, your health improves, you have more energy and vitality, your relationships become more joyful, you enjoy greater prosperity, and fabulous opportunities show up for you everywhere you look. When you love yourself, you become irresistibly attractive to others.
So how can you choose to love and accept yourself more? Start by treating yourself like the very special person you are. Start treating yourself like you did the other person in your first love affair. Start by doing nice things for yourself, such as:
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Give yourself a pure pleasure day – enjoy a massage, facial, pedicure, whatever makes you feel nourished and pampered.
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Buy yourself a special gift or take that dream vacation - just because you’re YOU!
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Go visit a new acquaintance to discover if there is a “resonance” between you!
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Notice your self-talk and say kind, encouraging, uplifting things to yourself.
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Make a list of your positive qualities and read your list daily.
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When someone gives you a compliment, believe it! Keep a list of compliments received as evidence of how wonderful you are and refer to it when you need a reminder.
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Look in the bathroom mirror each morning and say to yourself: “I LOVE YOU. You are absolutely and eternally wonderful and worthy of all good things.” In fact, studies show if you affirm this statement with feeling every time you look in a mirror, your life will improve immeasurably!
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Finally, make a declaration: “I hereby release my limiting belief of not being good enough and replace it with the joy of unconditional Self-Love.”
In accordance with the Law of Attraction, you can only attract that which you are a vibrational match to. Self-Love raises your vibration and connects you with your inner Source. Self-Love allows Well-Being of all kinds. The more you love yourself, the more you become a vibrational match to blissfully happy relationships with others. So, if you’re ready for that special someone to come into your life, the best thing you can do is amp up your Self-Love vibe. Likewise, if you already have the relationship and want to improve it, the best thing you can do is love and accept yourself more.
When you broadcast the high vibration of Self-Love, when you treat yourself well, when you know you’re worthy and deserving, it’s amazing how quickly your desires will manifest. Give it a try. Let this Valentine’s Day be about Self-Love. Be your own Valentine. As you bask in the deliciousness of Self-Love, you will find that you truly CAN Be and Do and Have Whatever You Desire right now!
